6.05.2013

10 Life Lessons After 27 Years

Happy birthday to me! While 27 is still pretty young in the grand scheme of things, I'm feeling a bit old as I inch closer to 30. The good thing is that I still feel so young at heart. I hear that never goes away, which I hope is true. 

Along the journey I've learned a thing or two about life. Ready for some birthday musings?


What made you uncool when you were younger will give you character later. 
My role model used to be Michael Jordan. I wore basketball jerseys every day and would practice layups day in and out. This led to the title of being co-captain of a 7 girl varsity basketball team in high school. The entire season I think I made 3 baskets. 

While I know you’re impressed beyond belief, not many other people agreed. Not very cool, right? But from all that I learned the importance of going with the flow and perseverance. And I look back on that gangly high schooler fondly for having kept trying. 


The best relationships stand the test of time. 
People change and so will your relationships. Whether it’s your best friends, parents, or significant other, a relationship is a living, breathing thing that takes effort and time. As you evolve, so do others, and your relationships will evolve as well. You’ll get closer, you’ll grow apart, you’ll realize the importance of some people, and you’ll realize that others are not. Time is oh-so telling. It’s the relationships there through thick and thin that are the most important among any others. 

Let go. 
I used to have this odd thing about letting people go. I remained in toxic relationships for far too long and held onto people that brought me down and fueled insecurities. I eventually learned that it’s okay to let go of those that bring you down or ones that don’t put an equal effort into your relationship. In fact, it’s a really healthy thing to do. 

Embrace change. 
Change can be really hard, but whether it’s personal evolution or uncontrollable circumstances, I’ve found in life that it’s usually for the best. 

Be nice to others and to yourself. 
People are human and will make mistakes. The same goes with you. Forgive, and have a short memory. Both will act in your favor. Look upon others, and yourself, in a kind light and you will never be short of a friend. 

In short -- mean people suck. Don’t be one of them. 

Getting older is a good thing. 
You will not be the same person you were last year, 5 years ago, or 10 years ago. You aren’t supposed to be. Embrace getting older and do it gracefully - with every year comes wisdom and growth, which are both things that can only come with time. Those who look back on past years thinking that they were the best of their days, are the ones who make the future less than it can be. 

Wear sunscreen 
Back when Britney & Christina made belly shirts cool and tan bodies the standard, I would go to the tanning bed and bake my skin until I was brown. I kick myself looking back on that and think about how dumb that was. Spoiler alert: No matter how much I tanned, my skin went right back where it started. It’s a fruitless pursuit. Why not embrace paleness and spare your skin the agony? It’s prettier to be healthy. 

You’re worth the effort. 
Make sure you know that and require others to uphold that. Especially men. 

You CAN be what you want to be. But you have to be willing to work. 
There’s no way around that work part. Good things come to those who make good things happen. So get out there and do good things. 

Relax. 
Literally and figuratively. Looking back on all the times or situations that I felt were the “end of the world”...they weren’t. Everything has always turned out okay. The universe has an odd way of naturally working itself out, and I firmly believe that everything happens for a reason, so don’t sweat the small stuff. Also, travel as much as possible. 

What are some lessons that you've learned along the way?

Care to dance? Follow my lead.

25 comments:

  1. Happy birthday! I'm turning 30 very soon (ack!) so please don't feel old! You gave some really great life advice in this post. :)

    -Sharon
    The Tiny Heart
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  2. happy 27th! i just turned 27 2 weeks ago. the thing i've learned most lately is to enjoy spending time by myself. to be alone is not always something to be sad about - it's actually quite nice and relaxing.
    xoamy
    www.cupcakesncouture.com

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  3. Happy Birthday! Twenty seven is a great age to be. If you think approaching 30 is scary wait till you turn 47 like I did this year. I think every milestone has some significance in our minds, but it's true that you always feel young at heart. The lessons you've learned so far are good ones and some people take a lot longer to get that!

    Kim

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  4. I love this, Emily–and happy birthday! I've learned many of the same lessons throughout the years, so I really enjoyed reading your list. I think the biggest thing I've learned is try to find the happiness in each and every day!

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  5. Happy Bday!! Hugs and kisses for you! and thanks for sharing these lessons with us!

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  6. Looooooooove all of them! good to follow!
    kisses!

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  7. happy happy birthday, emily!! love this reflective post. hope you have a fabulous day and we have to get together SOON!

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  8. Love this! Happy Birthday!! I just turned 26 and am feeling a bit old too. 30 will be here before we know it!

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  9. Happy Birthday Em!!!!! Very Enlightening post, and very true!!

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  10. A very happy birthday Emily! I love each of these points and agree with all of them. Just as an aside, I used to be extremely self-conscious about my paleness and it didn't help that people didn't hesitate to point out how pale my legs were anytime I wore shorts. Now I embrace the color of my skin because... it's my SKIN for god's sake! I ought not berate myself or dislike the color of my own skin!

    xox
    Bailey
    http://akabailey.blogspot.com

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  11. Happy birthday! Love all the life lessons, I agree with all of them!

    Jill
    Classy with a Kick

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  12. Happy birthday dear Emily, what a brilliant post, definitely agree with all your lovely musings! ^^ Personally, over the years I learned how to be comfortable in my own skin and how to love myself. It was a huge step for me, gave me so much confidence. Thank you so much for sharing, have a wonderful birthday! <333

    Liana x
    Dress Code Chic

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  13. Happy Birthday! These life lessons are so helpful!

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  14. Happy Birthday! Yes to travel!!

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  15. Happy Birthday! Loved this post- I agree with all of them (especially the letting people go & wearing sunscreen part!)

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  16. Thanks so much for sharing. I am turning 27 (yipes!) in August and love the reinforcement of your words.

    Paige
    http://phswildwest.wordpress.com/

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  17. Happy birthday!!! I hope you had an awesome day. Love all the lessons.

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  18. Hope you had the happiest of birthdays! Love this post :)

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  19. Happy (belated) birthday, doll! Cheers to 27!

    -Ashley
    http://lestylorouge.com

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  20. Happy Birthday, chica!!! Hope it's amazing :)

    ArteresaLynn.com

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  21. happy belated birthday! this was such a lovely post. thank you for writing it!

    -Stephanie of Stylemiths :D

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  22. Happy Be-lated birthday doll, I hope you had a marvellous day xx

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  23. Love your post and happy b-lated birthday !

    xo,
    Cindi
    Breakfast at Cindi’s

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  24. Happy Belated Birthday, love! I loved this post!

    http://everythingsalwayssunny@gmail.com
    Kristin
    xo

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  25. Happy(belated)birthday!Great post!
    Lori

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